Aegis Fang Posted April 13, 2006 Posted April 13, 2006 As I said in my other thread, it is way overrated. They're just gonna get in your way, and you know you're gonna have to break up with them anyways. Besides, being single, you can hit on anyone you want to instead of being stuck with one person. Quote
Lustra.exe Posted April 13, 2006 Posted April 13, 2006 In high school? yes. extremely overrated. yeah... Quote
BlinK Day 41 Posted April 13, 2006 Posted April 13, 2006 well if u know how to handle things and you're with the right girl....... life could be very good for you Quote
Lustra.exe Posted April 13, 2006 Posted April 13, 2006 but when that ends, because it will, it'll be world of drama... and the thing about high school is that you won't be able to settle it privately. everyone gets involved creating more drama. Quote
bariphonium Posted April 13, 2006 Posted April 13, 2006 You've just gotta be with the right person if you're going long-term (which is possible; I know a few people who married their high-school sweethearts). If you're looking more for a two-week flirtfest, then enjoy yourself. In the end, it's all about getting what you want out of the relationship, despite its length. Quote
Lustra.exe Posted April 13, 2006 Posted April 13, 2006 The fact is, is that most high schoolers lack the maturity of having a long term relationship in mind. Is it possible? Yes. However, it is very rare. And from what I have seen, I know a few couples that have been together for 16 months+, and they are completely miserable. You're right, it really depends on what you are looking to get out of the relationship. But seeing as most either don't know what they want or are looking for a short term physical relationship to meet the status quo that society has set for us, it can be assumed that in high school having a girlfriend/boyfriend is overrated. However, I believe it necessary to go through a relationship or two while you are young so you can learn and discover what you want/don't-want. Be it, I don't think it is imperative to the process of growing up because boyfriend/girlfriend or not, your heart will be broken at one point or another. And I do believe that heart break is extremely important to experience. Emotional growth in your teenage years is just as critical as your physical and mental expansion. Quote
bluebellbrass07 Posted April 13, 2006 Posted April 13, 2006 BY FAR!!! at least in high school it is. Its always funny when your friend hooks up with someone and they say they love each other and talk about getting married and naming their future kids. Quote
chickora Posted April 13, 2006 Posted April 13, 2006 bluebellbrass07 said: BY FAR!!! at least in high school it is. Its always funny when your friend hooks up with someone and they say they love each other and talk about getting married and naming their future kids. I am guilty of this, but I have completely grown out of it. However, I agree with the overratedness in high school, but dating is fun in high school. I have to say though, I am in a steady relationship. We have only got in one fight. It was about how I didn't want to eat lunch because I was pissed off. Silly, yes... But that was it. I am not even sure if that is considered a fight. So its overrated for the people who just like to hook up for the physical benefits, Which I have no problem with. I love to make out! Quote
bluebellbrass07 Posted April 13, 2006 Posted April 13, 2006 QUOTE (chickora @ Apr 13 2006, 05:09 PM) I love to make out! wow, im having a hard time believeing I just read that, lol! Quote
ClaireAnnette07 Posted April 14, 2006 Posted April 14, 2006 I think high school relationships IN GENERAL are overrated..I mean, I know people (ahem, girls) who write "I Love (insert name here)!!" like, two days after they start dating...it's like, a little lame. But then again, I haven't started dating yet, so I guess I just don't understand Quote
Dynasty Posted April 14, 2006 Posted April 14, 2006 Haha, you all are funny, yet make valid points. I won't talk about my relationship because that's a little too private for forums, but I will say that she is wonderful and continues to grow on me as the months go on. (No, we aren't miserable) I hate to stereotype, but I'm not in the typical high school relationship that Lustra described (Though I do agree with what you said, so don't get me wrong). Therefore, I probably just have a different perspective on it. I wish all you guys luck. Someday you'll find the person that makes the "stereotypical" relationships offensive (for lack of a better word). And I do agree with Chickora... You'll be in a real relationship where you have to wait to tell someone you love them, and mean it! Quote
Lustra.exe Posted April 14, 2006 Posted April 14, 2006 Very valid points everyone. But this raises a new question. Not to venture to far off from the topic but: Do you think "love" in high school is a plausible thing? And by "love", I mean the real deal. Not the puppy love that most seem to be confused with. Much respect, Dynasty, not bring in your relationship. Very gentlemanlike. Personally, like I said before (and all of you might take paralleling stances on this to the bf/gf question), it is possible yet rare. And most of us like to think that we are part of the rarity and are actually in love. Quote
Dynasty Posted April 14, 2006 Posted April 14, 2006 Love is difficult to describe as there is no definition or common consensus on the idea... I would say its just the lack of other emotions to describe how you feel. When you can't describe it, it could be love (Key word is could...). Quote
mbui Posted April 14, 2006 Posted April 14, 2006 QUOTE (Dynasty @ Apr 13 2006, 08:28 PM) but I will say that she is wonderful and continues to grow on me as the months go on (No, we aren't miserable) Travis....pictures?? Quote
chickora Posted April 14, 2006 Posted April 14, 2006 What can you say? About the love thing.. I do believe in love in high school. In fact, that's probaly when you feel the strongest about a person. This is because you are a teenager and your emotions are high. Like you said though, the lack of maturity does put an effect on how a relationship lasts. It's terrible that people always degrade teenage love. Think about in the old days, people used to get married at 12 and stay married for life. Alls, I have to say.. That love is beautiful. I have a huge feeling I am in love. I can't really descibe it in words. I can only describe it in actions. bluebellbrass07 said: wow, im having a hard time believeing I just read that, lol! Why do you say its soo hard? Quote
bluebellbrass07 Posted April 14, 2006 Posted April 14, 2006 QUOTE (chickora @ Apr 14 2006, 12:46 PM) Why do you say its soo hard? I just found it really funny. Quote
Lustra.exe Posted April 14, 2006 Posted April 14, 2006 When you are a teenager the feelings you have for someone maybe great. And at that point it is probably the greatest you've ever felt, allowing you to believe it's love. Just because you've never felt stronger for a person doesn't mean that it is love. And back in "the old days", those marriages were arranged by the parents of those two people. And divorse was unheard of. Almost illegal. Marriage was base on economical power between families and had little to do with love. Quote
chickora Posted April 15, 2006 Posted April 15, 2006 Lustra.exe said: When you are a teenager the feelings you have for someone maybe great. And at that point it is probably the greatest you've ever felt, allowing you to believe it's love. Just because you've never felt stronger for a person doesn't mean that it is love. And back in "the old days", those marriages were arranged by the parents of those two people. And divorse was unheard of. Almost illegal. Marriage was base on economical power between families and had little to do with love. Well.... alls I have to say. Love is undescribible... and no one should doubt a person for what they feel. It may seem silly for someone to say they aren't going to last. I don't think its right to correct peoples feelings. You don't know how they feel, so so what if you may not think its love. In my opinion, I don't believe in the 'true love' for life thing. It's just impossible. Quote
Danpod Posted April 15, 2006 Posted April 15, 2006 I would totally comment on this but when it comes to this kind of stuff, I am a total marshmallow and a softy. I don't want to make any of you cry Quote
chickora Posted April 15, 2006 Posted April 15, 2006 Danpod said: I would totally comment on this but when it comes to this kind of stuff, I am a total marshmallow and a softy. I don't want to make any of you cry What do you mean all marshmellowy and softy? Quote
Danpod Posted April 15, 2006 Posted April 15, 2006 chickora said: What do you mean all marshmellowy and softy? I'm a cornball, being all sentimental and whatnot. Speaking of which, I'm kind of hungry! Quote
whitewing09 Posted April 15, 2006 Posted April 15, 2006 it is overrated. these days everyone expects you to have one or like someone. and i dont. personal cuz everyone heres (my town not this website) the same. Quote
chickora Posted April 15, 2006 Posted April 15, 2006 Danpod said: I'm a cornball, being all sentimental and whatnot. Speaking of which, I'm kind of hungry! ohh darn you and you making me hungry Quote
Dynasty Posted April 15, 2006 Posted April 15, 2006 Look I've only had one high school relationship, and its still going on. And to counter what whitewing said, no one expected me to have a relationship. Heck, people are still suprised (even me half the time!). Quote
Danpod Posted April 15, 2006 Posted April 15, 2006 Dynasty said: Look I've only had one high school relationship, and its still going on. And to counter what whitewing said, no one expected me to have a relationship. Heck, people are still suprised (even me half the time!). It's true. You should see this guy eating McDonald's chicken nuggets!!!!!!!!!!! Quote
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